My Bucket List

In a recent ‘Bucket List’ survey, people across the East Midlands have agreed that the most important thing to do before they die is to see their loved ones happy and looked after – despite the fact that most adults don’t have a will and haven’t shared their end of life wishes with their loved ones.

Eight hospices across the East Midlands joined forces to undertake the random sampling survey which included a selection of ‘Bucket List’ things to do before people die including options such as traveling and learning a new skill.

Of the 400 people asked, over three quarters said that the most important thing for them was to see their loved ones happy and looked after, but research by Prudential and Unbiased.co.uk, the IFA and solicitor search engine, shows that more than half (59%) of adults don’t have a will in place.

The East Midlands Hospice Group have been working collaboratively for several years and are using the survey results to draw attention to the need for end-of-life planning during national Dying Matters Week, running from 8 to 14 May.

Talking about what you want to happen after you die, makes it more likely that your wishes will be met

George Cameron, chair of the group and chief executive of Treetops Hospice Care, explained more about the importance of Dying Matters Week:

“During Dying Matters Week, we want to encourage people to have open and honest discussions with their loved ones about dying and what their wishes would be when they get to the end of life.

“The majority of people find it difficult to have this kind of frank discussion but as a result many people simply don’t get the care they want at the end of life, the funeral they have in mind, or even take time to write a will and get their personal affairs in order.

“Talking with your loved ones about what you want to happen after you die, makes it more likely that your wishes will be met and it will be a comfort for your family and friends to know this.”

Helen Jordan, with items made for her childrenTreetops Hospice Care, which provides nursing care and emotional support for adults and their families, is also part of a Dying Matters Week relay to carry the end of life wishes of one woman across the city and county.

Helen, 50, from Long Eaton, has been planning for the future since she was diagnosed with terminal cancer four years ago. She has shared with her friends and family exactly what she wants for her funeral and how she would like to be cared for at the end of her life.

Helen will join the relay, organised by members of the Derbyshire Alliance for End of Life Care, as it begins from Treetops Hospice Care on Monday 8 May.  The relay will call at the Royal Derby Hospital, the University of Derby and the Quad before finishing at London Road Community Hospital on Friday 12 May.

Collectively, the eight hospices care for more than 13,000 adults across the East Midlands of which over 5,000 people are supported in their own homes and the community. They need to raise over £35million annually.

The hospices involved include:

  • Ashgate Hospicecare
  • Blythe House Hospice
  • Beaumond House Hospice
  • Dove Cottage Day Hospice
  • Nottinghamshire Hospice
  • St Barnabas Hospice
  • Treetops Hospice Care

Dying Matters Week is now in its eighth year and raises awareness of the importance of talking about, and planning for dying, with family members and loved ones.

Dying Matters Week 2017