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Donate to help us care for more local patients

Treetops welcomes donations to help the charity care for more terminally-ill patients and their families in the local community.

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Training to help compassionate conversations with patients

Treetops Hospice has welcomed Professor Ruth Parry to their communication skills training team as an honorary professor to develop research-based training on communicating with empathy.
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Couple shares heartfelt story to raise funds for Treetops

When Tess was diagnosed with a terminal brain tumour last year, she and her husband Adrian agreed that they wanted her to stay in their family home. Treetops Hospice nurses are supporting them with end-of-life nursing care so they can remain together.
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Remembering Buzz in Moonlight Walk

Ellen Busby is amongst the first to sign up for our Moonlight Walk walking in memory of her late husband John, affectionately known as ‘Buzz’.
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Spondon mum scoops £8k Treetops Lottery jackpot!

“The best Friday phone call ever” is how Ioni Finlay describes her call from Treetops Lottery, telling her she’d won the rollover jackpot of £8,200.
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Charity night walk to light up Derby city streets

Treetops has launched this year’s Moonlight Walk. The sponsored charity walk will welcome hundreds of people on the evening of Friday 6 September, walking to raise money for the local hospice.
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Information and advice on bereavement and grief

Sarah Cundill, Deputy Therapeutic Services Manager, answers some common questions about adult bereavement and how to support someone after the death of a loved one. What is bereavement? Bereavement is the word used to describe the death of a person. This could be the death of a husband, wife, partner, parent, sibling, child, or other relative or friend. What is grief? Grief is the response to a bereavement. Adults who have been bereaved may find themselves struggling with a powerful range of emotions. It’s important to remember that everyone grieves in their own unique way. There are many different feelings and emotions that you might experience. You may also notice changes in your behaviour after a death. You might: Feel more tired or not sleep well Not want to get involved in everyday things such as a regular hobby Be forgetful or unable to concentrate Get upset by simple things like hearing a song on the radio or seeing a photo of your loved one Want to be closer to your family and loved ones Argue or cry more often These are all completely normal reactions associated with grief. Does everyone grieve in the same way? Does every loss feel the same? Grief is unique to everyone. It's as unique as our fingerprints. We've all got our own personalities, our life experiences, and we've all got our own coping strategies and ways of dealing with things. Grief can be different depending on who’s died and your relationship with them. For example, each member of a family will have a different reaction to the death of the same family member. Think about your own close relationships. Each person has a different significance to you. Sometimes their importance to you may only be fully realised after a death. Grief is a response to both the depth and significance of this unique relationship. It's not just about the person you've lost, it's also the role they played in your life. For adults who experience the death of a husband or wife, that person may have been the one who did all the finances. Or they always filled the car with petrol, or was the practical person within your household. So, if that's the person that’s died, you've also lost those roles as well. Having to adjust to do these tasks yourself, is a direct reminder of your loved one’s absence. It can also feel overwhelming when you are trying to cope with your grief. It can be more difficult if the relationship you had was challenging, or you were estranged. You won’t have those positive memories to draw on. This is when grief becomes more complicated, and you probably need professional support. [button url="https://www.treetopshospice.org.uk/our-services/therapeutic-services/counselling-and-emotional-support-service/counselling-and-emotional-support-service-for-adults-dealing-with-bereavement/" template="block" class="btn-block--red"]Find out more about our bereavement support for adults and children[/button] Why don’t I feel sad when someone dies? There is an assumption that everybody should cry when somebody dies, and that's not always the case. It might not be part of your culture to express your feelings in this way. Or sometimes people think they will be perceived as weak if they cry and will often apologise for crying. You might process your grief through talking and sharing their feelings. Or you may not want to talk at all and want to be on your own. Everyone is different. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve. And it’s important not to judge the way someone reacts to the death of a loved one, and simply offer the support they need. Why is grief so painful? Grief can feel like the bond between ourselves and our loved one has been severed. Our response to this can be felt emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually and can be incredibly painful. Some people describe feeling like their heart is literally breaking. Grief can also make you feel physically unwell or very tired, because those emotions are so intense and gut wrenching. If you experience intense and long periods of crying and yearning for your loved one, for example, this can feel physically painful and exhausting. Why is grief worse at night? During the day, people usually have tasks that need completing and things that keep them busy. So it is common for grief to feel worse at night when there are less distractions. Following a bereavement, you might swing, or oscillate, in and out of feeling sad, but still have to get on with daily tasks, such as shopping for food. At night, everything can feel quieter. So when things start to settle, emotions, thoughts and memories come to the surface. These can seem particularly intense if you are also struggling to sleep. Does grief get worse with time? Most people find that grief changes over time as we find ways to live alongside it and manage our emotions. We all develop our own coping strategies, and these too can change over time. Sometimes you might try to find ways of avoiding your grief to protect yourself from the pain. Or you might throw yourself into caring for others, particularly if they are grieving too. You also may have other things happening in your life which doesn’t allow the space for you to grieve. However, sooner or later, we can find our grief begins to break through and we feel the need to pay attention to it. Whilst grief is a natural reaction to the loss of a loved one, you may find it beneficial to seek support to help make sense of your reactions. This might be by talking it through with your family and friends, joining a bereavement group, or seeking out counselling. How can I support myself during a significant anniversary such as Mother’s Day, Father’s Day or birthdays? Birthdays and other anniversaries are likely to be a more challenging day than normal when you’ve been bereaved. You may want to be on your own, being quiet and reflective. Or you may want company and to share memories. It’s important to do what feels right for you. One of the things that can be helpful as you prepare for a significant anniversary, is the concept of continuing bonds: finding a way to continue your relationship with your loved one after their death. This could perhaps involve keeping up a tradition or developing a ritual. This is something that you may seek to do naturally throughout the year, by emphasising connections, big or small to the things that were important to your loved one - a favourite flower, film, or place, as examples. Consider activities that you know your loved one liked, or that you enjoyed together. You might go to their favourite restaurant, or have their favourite cake, so they still feel part of that celebration. You could light a candle, plant something in the garden, write your feelings down in a card, or post a message or photo on social media to share with family and friends. Be kind to yourself and compassionate towards your own feelings. It is okay to not be okay. Don’t expect too much of yourself. Where possible, allow yourself to feel your emotions, rather than pushing them away. [button url="https://www.treetopshospice.org.uk/resources/coping-grief-mothers-day/" template="block" class="btn-block--red"]Read our advice on coping with grief on Mother's Day[/button] [button url="https://www.treetopshospice.org.uk/resources/coping-with-grief-christmas/" template="block" class="btn-block--red"]Read our advice on coping with grief at Christmas[/button] Will each anniversary - the first birthday, first Christmas, or other milestone - always feel the same after the death of a loved one? There's an assumption that the first anniversary or first significant date after a loved one’s death will be the most challenging for you. This could be a birthday (yours, theirs, or another family member), a wedding anniversary, or something similar. But sometimes that's not the case. Because you expect the first anniversary will be difficult, you tend to prepare yourself for it. You anticipate it will be a hard time. You might think, ‘I’ve just got to get through this first Christmas’ or ‘I’ve just got to get through this first wedding anniversary.’ When we talk about grief at Treetops, we talk about how you swing, or oscillate, in and out of grief. In this situation, you may swing back into your loss, and probably weren’t expecting it to be as intense, so it can feel like it’s worse. What should I say to someone who’s grieving after losing someone they love? It’s natural to feel anxious about talking to someone about the death of their loved one. You might think that talking about the person that’s died is the wrong thing to do or you may be worried about upsetting them. You may be unsure about what to say or not to say. Or you might not know how to start a conversation. Grief can feel very isolating and being surrounded by people who don’t talk about it can make this feeling worse. Giving people an opportunity to talk about their loved one is often a good thing. The worst has already happened. You are unlikely to make them any more upset than they already are. Even if they do get upset and tearful, that’s okay. It’s important to let them connect with their memories and share them with you. Often people say that they felt supported initially, but it is when everyone around them returns to their normal lives, that they feel most alone. Offering opportunities to talk even months down the line can help reduce this sense of isolation. How do I know if I need bereavement counselling after a death? How can bereavement counselling help me? Everyone will experience a bereavement at least once in their lifetime. It’s important to remember that grief is a normal reaction to loss. Often grief can feel particularly intense and hard to cope with in the weeks and months following a bereavement, but generally, over time you should start to notice you are better able to cope with the impact of your loss. However, sometimes for a variety of reasons this does not happen. If you find you continue to struggle with the impact of your grief on day-to-day life and things like sleep, appetite, your ability to work and your mood continue to be affected, you might benefit from some professional support. People’s experience of grief tends to change over time as they find ways to live alongside it. Bereavement counselling can help you to integrate your grief into your life so that it doesn’t have such a far-reaching impact. What is bereavement counselling? What is bereavement counselling like? Bereavement counselling involves a person who’s struggling with the death of a loved one talking to a trained counsellor to help them process their grief. This is usually done through weekly sessions. When you come for bereavement counselling at Treetops, you are matched with a counsellor. You will see the same counsellor at every session so you can build a relationship of trust. They will get to know you and understand what you need to support you. Through this relationship with your counsellor, you will learn to understand your grief and its unique impact on you. We also help you understand that what you’re experiencing is normal. We often hear people say that grief can make you feel like you’re going mad. One minute you feel okay and the next minute you don’t. This oscillation (swinging back and forth) can go on for a long time. This is a normal reaction and it’s helpful to have that reassurance. During a counselling session you might want to just sit and talk, releasing your emotions. You might not feel able to do this in the ‘real world’ where people might expect you to be okay. Your bereavement counsellor can also help you explore coping strategies. You might spend some time focusing on memories of your loved one. By capturing these, we can grasp the importance of our loved one to us and the bearing they had on our lives. Grief can be an assault on the body, affecting you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. The shock of a bereavement can trigger a ‘fight or flight’ response and these symptoms can have a far-reaching effect. Your bereavement counsellor can help you learn to manage these symptoms and reduce their impact. Over time, you can learn to make sense of what has happened, develop a narrative that is meaningful to you and integrate this into your life. You become more able to understand, and talk about your loved one’s death in a way that allows you to better manage your day-to-day life, without being thrown too far off track by reminders of them. Where does bereavement counselling take place at Treetops? Bereavement counselling sessions for adults take place in our bespoke counselling centre at the hospice based in Risley, Derbyshire. The rooms are designed to help you feel relaxed, and all rooms have views of our beautiful grounds. Our counselling centre is not clinical in any way. It’s a calming, helping, supportive environment. How many bereavement sessions will I need? We offer bereavement counselling sessions for as long as you need them. We normally offer an initial 12 sessions bu this can be extended where needed. If you do need more bereavement support, we have an open door policy. This allows you to come back for more support if something happens in life that re-triggers your grief. Is everything I talk about during bereavement counselling confidential? Everything you talk about during a bereavement counselling session is highly confidential. Generally, the only time where a counsellor will break that confidentiality, is if they had a concern around your safety or that of someone else. For example, if they had a concern that you or somebody else was being harmed in any way. But they would do this in collaboration with you wherever possible. If they felt the need to take some information outside the counselling room, you would be informed. They would explain what they need to do and what will happen next. How much does bereavement counselling cost? Bereavement counselling at Treetops is completely free and not means-tested. How can I access adult bereavement counselling? You must refer yourself to bereavement counselling at Treetops. Other people may recommend you contact us, such as your GP or another health professional, but you must contact us in person. Counselling is not right for everyone and to benefit from it you must have the capacity to engage with the weekly sessions. Approaching us when the time feels right, and you are able to commit to the process, is an important part of accessing help. Do you have a grief support group? Where can I meet other adults who’ve been bereaved? We offer a weekly peer support group for bereaved adults called Tears to Laughter where you can meet other people who have experienced bereavement. The group is a safe space to share how you truly feel after a bereavement, without fear of upsetting family members or friends. This group does not offer bereavement counselling. If you need additional emotional support, we will signpost you to our bereavement counselling team, where you can access further help. How can I become a bereavement counsellor at Treetops? At Treetops, we have a bereavement counselling team made up of qualified counsellors, student counsellors, and trained support volunteers. We are always looking for qualified counsellors (with a minimum of a Diploma in Counselling) to join us on a volunteer basis. This is an ideal opportunity for newly qualified counsellors looking to gain valuable experience, or for those who are building up their hours towards accreditation. Counsellors in any stage of their career would be most welcome. Do you offer counselling placements for students? We run a student placement scheme for students in the second year of their training. We have two intakes a year, in spring and autumn. All our counsellors have an interview and attend two-day counselling induction training which includes sessions on working with bereavement, loss and life-limiting illness. All volunteers work with at least two clients a week. We provide supervision, monthly workshops, insurance and DBS checks. There is additional training specifically to support work with children and young people. We also offer training in working from a trauma-informed perspective. How can I support my child/ren after a bereavement? You can find answers to a wide range of questions about supporting a child after the death of a loved one on our website. Where do we support? Our counselling service is available to all users of Treetops Hospice services, and adults and children registered with a GP practice in Derby city, Southern Derbyshire or Erewash. Your bereavement may have occurred at any time in the past. Many of our referrals are in relation to unexpected and/or traumatic bereavement. The service is available for as long as you need it in relation to dealing with your loss. Care and support outside our catchment area If you live outside our catchment areas, you can find other sources of help and advice about adult bereavement on our website. You could also try contacting your local hospice for more bereavement support for adults and children.
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£100k funding to help care homes

Treetops has received £100,000 funding to help Derbyshire care homes support residents who are approaching the end of their life.
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Mother’s Day advice

Mother's Day on Sunday 10 March can be a challenging time for those grieving the loss of a mother figure, or for mothers mourning the loss of a child.
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Staff and volunteers recognised for dedication

Fourteen staff and volunteers from Treetops Hospice were presented with long service awards to in a special winter social held this weekend.
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Beat Blue Monday blues: Challenge yourself for Treetops

Take on a Treetops charity challenge to help tackle Blue Monday and raise vital funds to support local patients and families.
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Supporting children following the death of a loved one

Jules Kirk, Therapeutic Services Manager, answers some common questions about how to support children after the death of a loved one. [caption id="attachment_5095" align="alignnone" width="800"] Jules Kirk, Therapeutic Services Manager[/caption] What is child bereavement? A child bereavement is when a child or young person experiences the death of a loved one. This could be the death of a grandparent, parent, sibling or other close relative or friend. At what age can a child understand death? All children understand death in their own unique way. How a child understands death depends on many factors, not just their age. For example, a child’s understanding can be affected by their ability to express their emotions, their wider family and social dynamics, as well as their culture and beliefs. Very young children Very young children, developmentally 2 years old or younger, have no understanding of death. They can experience feelings of loss and insecurity however because a significant person is now missing from their lives. At this age, children may become more clingy and cry more often following a significant death. They may also regress to earlier behavioural milestones. At this young age, it’s important to offer lots of cuddles and hugs, and maintain a child’s normal routine as much as possible. 2-5 year olds Children with a developmental age of 2-5 years old don’t understand what ‘forever’ means, so they may believe that death is reversible. They may talk about the person who has died as if they are still alive. It may take time for them to grasp their loved one has died, and you may find yourself repeating the same explanation often. Children of this age can feel insecure and frightened by change. They may appear more withdrawn, or search for the person who has died. Reassurance and encouragement can help. You can also help them to express their feelings in healthy such as with drawing, talking or exercise. 5-11 year olds A child who is developmentally 5 to 11 years old has a growing understanding that death is permanent. Children of this age can worry about their own health and safety, or that of others, following a significant death. They may feel anxious about being separated from important people in their life, such as when they go to school. They may express their feelings through behaviour that is out of character. They may have angry outbursts, or suppress their emotions to feel like they are protecting the adults around them. It’s important to give clear and honest answers to a child’s questions following a death. It’s okay to say you don’t know the answer. Listen to them and help them to name their feelings. You could talk about death as a part of life. You could talk about the changes in the seasons whilst on a walk or in the garden and how all living things have a life cycle. You could also involve children of this age in planning a funeral or help them remember their loved one through talking, activities and family traditions. 11 years and above Older children, developmentally aged 11 and over, can understand that death is irreversible. They can feel very intense emotions such as sadness, guilt, anger and fear. They may become isolated and depressed, or feel less confident after a bereavement. To help a child of this age after a death, offer praise and encouragement. Try to include the child in family activities and discussions, making time to talk and listen. You can talk to them about their grief, or leave information around for them to read. Children often learn to express themselves by watching the adults around them. Most children will recognise that you are grieving too. Seeing you get upset and then recover your composure is helpful in reassuring a child that it is okay to cry and that they can recover too. It’s important to remember that the timescale for grieving may be different for every child. How do I talk to a child about the death of a loved one? It’s natural to worry about talking to a child about the death of a loved one. You may be worried about what to say – or not say. You might not know how to start a conversation. Being open and honest with children about what has happened is more helpful than keeping them in the dark to try and protect them. Children will often fill in the gaps if they don’t have the facts. Sometimes, children’s stories about what happened to their loved one do not always make sense, perhaps because they have connected seemingly unrelated events or facts. Helping them develop a more accurate, age-appropriate, understanding around the events leading up to the death, can help them to accept the reality of the loss. Try to use simple language to talk about death Try to use simple language to deliver the basic facts about what has happened. People often use the terms ‘passed away’, ‘gone away’ or ‘gone to sleep’ after someone’s death. At Treetops, our counsellors recommend using the words ‘died’ and ‘death’, as children can interpret information in a very literal way. Euphemisms can lead to confusion and may influence a child’s feelings around a burial or cremation. Allow time for your child to ask questions about the death of a loved one. Give them the information they are seeking but don’t overload them with extra details that they don’t ask for. Be aware that children may appear to move quickly away from the conversation and ask something entirely unrelated, like going out to play. This is completely normal and their way of managing the situation. How can the death of a parent, grandparent or loved one affect a child? Just like adults, children and young people who have been bereaved may find themselves struggling with a powerful range of emotions. It’s important to remember that everyone grieves in their own unique way. There are many different feelings and emotions that a grieving child might experience. You may also notice changes in a child’s behaviour after a death. These are all completely normal reactions to grief. A grieving child may: Appear more tired or not sleep well Not want to get involved in everyday things. They may not want to go to school or college – or hang out with their friends Be forgetful or unable to concentrate Get upset by simple things like hearing a song on the radio or seeing a photo of a loved one Want to be closer to their family and loved ones Argue or cry more often How can I help a child after a death? Following a death, we experience a range of emotions, and these fluctuate in intensity throughout the day. For children they might be experiencing both feelings and a level of intensity of emotions that they have not encountered before. They may not have the words to express their feelings so may act them out through their behaviour. Children need ‘time off’ from the intensity of their emotions Children need ‘time off’ from the intensity of these emotions, and often move in and out of these feelings more rapidly than adults. We call this ‘puddle jumping’. For example, your child might be in floods of tears one minute, and then in the next moment ask whether they can go out to play or what’s for dinner. Adults tend to be able to tolerate greater amounts of distress and so can find the sudden shift in a grieving child surprising at first. You can support your child when someone dies by trying to name the emotions they are experiencing. For example, “I can see that you are feeling angry” or “It sounds like you are feeling more worried since X died.” You could find healthy ways to help your child express their emotions. For example, through talking, physical exercise, breathing techniques, or creative activities like drawing or writing. Find ways to talk about your experiences of grief within the family. This can be as simple as saying, “I’m feeling sad since X died”; or “I’m not sleeping as well since X died.” Reassure your child that moving forward doesn’t mean forgetting. Continue to talk about their loved one in everyday conversation. It can be more helpful to think of the time following a death as ‘learning to live alongside your grief’ rather than trying to ‘get over it’. Support your child to return to any activities they used to enjoy Offer ways of continuing a bond with their loved one through everyday activities or by creating a ritual that helps to remember them. This could be things like visiting the grave or continuing to do something they used to do together. It might also be baking the cake their loved one always made or watching their favourite film. Support your child to return to any activities they used to enjoy or to try something new if they prefer. They may need more reassurance, a friend or family member to go with them or to start by going for shorter periods of time. Remind your child it is okay to feel happy sometimes, this does not mean they have forgotten their loved one. How do I know if my child needs bereavement counselling after a death? It’s important to remember that grief is a normal reaction to loss, for children as well as adults. But sometimes children need extra support, such as bereavement counselling, to help them deal with their loss. You may notice that your child is struggling to do normal, day to day things such as going to school, or being able to sleep over an extended period of time. You might notice that grief is having a significant impact on their emotional and mental health. You know your child best. If you have concerns that you would like to discuss with a member of our team, please contact us for more advice. What is bereavement counselling for a child? Sometimes a child who’s experienced the death of a significant loved one can continue to struggle with their grief. They may not feel able to share the way they are feeling with a parent or family member. Bereavement counselling sessions can help a bereaved child or young person to understand, explore and cope with their feelings and emotions in a supportive environment. One to one counselling At Treetops, we offer one-to-one sessions with a trained counsellor in a room especially designed for children. These sessions can include talking or doing an activity, such as playing a game or doing some art and craft, to encourage a bereaved child to express how they are feeling. Non-talking therapy programme We also offer a non-talking therapy programme for groups of bereaved children or young people called the Mollitiam Project. The programme helps children who might find the idea of one-to-one counselling too daunting and would prefer to use other non-talking means. The programme takes place over 8 weeks. Groups are made up of between 6-12 young people and include activities such as animal therapy, drumming therapy, art therapy, yoga therapy and complementary therapy. Each week has a theme related to grief and helps the children and young people understand what they are going through and manage their feelings better. Preparing a child for a funeral or cremation The decision over whether or not to allow a child to attend a funeral or cremation may seem straight forward or could be a cause for anguish if you are worried about how your child will cope. Armed with enough knowledge, most children are capable of deciding if they want to attend the funeral of a loved one. Even young children can feel comforted when they are older, knowing they did attend a funeral, even if they don’t remember it. We encourage you to explain that funeral or cremation is a chance to mark their loved one’s life and an opportunity to say goodbye. You could talk about what happens at a funeral and what is involved. Explain that it’s possible that people might cry and get upset, including yourself and them. Reassure them that you will both be okay and it’s okay to show these feelings. Give your child plenty of time to ask questions. Involve your child in planning Where possible, involve your child in the plans and create an opportunity for them to be involved, even if they choose not to attend. They could give ideas, write or draw something that could be read out or put in the coffin, help choose flowers or music. If your child does want to attend, work out a plan for what will happen if they find it too upsetting and wish to leave. Let them know who will take them outside. How can I become a child bereavement counsellor at Treetops? At Treetops, we have a bereavement counselling team made up of qualified counsellors, student counsellors, and trained support volunteers. We are always looking for qualified counsellors (with a minimum of a Diploma in Counselling) to join us on a volunteer basis. This is an ideal opportunity for newly qualified counsellors looking to gain valuable experience, or for those who are building up their hours towards accreditation. Counsellors in any stage of their career would be most welcome. We also run a student placement scheme for students in the second year of their training. We have two intakes a year in spring and autumn. All our counsellors have an interview and attend a two-day counselling induction training which includes sessions on working with bereavement, loss and life-limiting illness. There is additional training specifically to support work with children and young people from a trauma-informed perspective. All volunteers work with at least two clients a week. We provide supervision, monthly workshops, insurance and DBS checks. Supporting a bereaved child in school We offer a training programme for primary and secondary schools including advice and guidance on how to support children when a loved one dies. The programme helps teachers and school support staff to better understand how children and young people comprehend death, how to recognise common reactions to a bereavement, and how to support bereaved children. The training also includes empathic listening, and appropriate language and activities to do in school that can help. There is a charge for this training which allows us to offer our hospice services free of charge to our counselling clients and patients. Support for you as a parent or carer Sometimes you do need to be strong after a bereavement and there will be times when you need to hold it together for the sake of your children. However, it is very important to be kind to yourself following a significant death and recognise that you are grieving too. We believe that helping you, is helping your child. We encourage you not to ignore your own feelings and emotions and to seek and accept help from those around you. Taking time for ‘you’ is a great way to show your child that it is okay to look after yourself, especially during difficult times. Where do we support? Our counselling service is available to all users of Treetops Hospice services and children and young people registered with a GP practice in Derby city, Southern Derbyshire or Erewash. The bereavement experienced by a child or young person may have occurred at any time in the past. Many of our referrals are in relation to unexpected and/or traumatic bereavement. The service is available for as long as the child, or young person need them in relation to dealing with their loss. Once sessions end there is always the possibility of taking up further support should the need arise. All our counselling services are provided free of charge and are not means-tested. You can contact us if you are a professional, family members, or a bereaved child or young person. Care and support outside our catchment area If you live outside our catchment areas, you can find other sources of help and advice about child bereavement on our website. You could also try contacting your local hospice for more bereavement support for children and adults.  
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